Sometimes it's hard for me to wrap my mind around the "concept" of family. Your're born into them, they are supposed to love you and guide you, at least I think thats the case. But if your born into a messed up breed of folk, you're in a whole mess of trouble. My grandfather used to say (transalation) "If your dead and your family didn't have a hand in it, then your not dead yet". And this morning I saw what he really means by that.
My cousin lets call him O got arrested for shooting a gun and hitting someone. He and his friend were jailed and were being prosecuted. His friends mother put up her house to bail her son out. My aunt, his mother, called EVERYONE she knew to borrow money to get him out on bail. She even called my biological father, BEHIND my mom's back and without anyone knowing to ask him for money. Now when I found out about this MONTHS later, I was soooo VEXED that she would even play herself and do some mess like that, but I digress. Anyway, my mom gave her money obviously that when the trial was over that she would give her the money back. My aunt asked my mother to take equity out of her HOUSE!!!! to help her pay his bail. Now I assure you when I heard this mess I was livid. Apparently, unbeknownst to us, my mom borrowed this money against the equity in her life insurance to loan the money to my aunt with the hopes she would pay it back after the trail so she could send it back to the insurance company. Ok bet
The trial has been over for months now. He was found innocent. My mother still hasn't gotten the money back. So before she went vacation she asked my aunt about it, and my aunt told her that she was going to see what she could find out, because her and the other lady put the money together to pay the bail. Now apparently this woman sold her house and moved to Atlanta after this whole ordeal. My mom comes back from vacation and calls my aunt, she isn' answering any of her calls or returning her messages. My mom gets a letter from her insurance company saying that her policy has lapsed because she hasnt given that money back....so after haggling with them she got the issue fixed. My mom finally is able to track my aunt down and when my mom asks her about the money...this HEIFER has the NERVE to yell at my mom telling her she is stressing her out and she has bills to pay and blah blah blah. It's been summised by my other aunt in FL (the only one who is worth a damn) that she got the money back from the lady and she spent it. So my mother got upset and she is telling me this story and I'm seriously like you shouldn't be telling me this, because I will go to her house and drape her up.
My thing is this....there are 5 kids...my uncle disappeared...he is last rumoured to be in FL but who knows. She has 3 sisters, one in FL and 2 in NYC. My grandmother is sick, she is losing her eyesight and she lives with us. My mom takes care of her, my dad cooks all her meals, my mom cleans her room, buys her all the things she needs (food, clothes, toiletries, medication which she is on an unnatural amount of), does all her laundry, all of that. My aunts....DO NOT come to help, they offer no money, they offer no time, they don't come spend time with her and NEITHER one of them have a job like that. The ONLY time they come see their OWN mother is if they want to borrow money from her from her social security check OR when they want to borrow money from my mom. One of my cousin lives with us...he is 17, should be a senior in H.S but AINT cuz when he moved into our house after 2 FULL years of school he only had 7 credits! yes only 7! and thats another story all to it self. His mother doesn't work, doesnt want to take him back in, doesnt give any money to feed him and I ASSURE you he eats like a damn horse, doesnt check on his schooling to see how he is doing and has the NERVE to FILE for him on her taxes when she DONT even take care of him.
I feel like they are taking advantage in the TRUE sense of the word, they are stressing my mom out with their BULL and my mom suffers from high blood pressure and I swear to goodness if anything happens to her....
Yeah I'm done.
My cousin lets call him O got arrested for shooting a gun and hitting someone. He and his friend were jailed and were being prosecuted. His friends mother put up her house to bail her son out. My aunt, his mother, called EVERYONE she knew to borrow money to get him out on bail. She even called my biological father, BEHIND my mom's back and without anyone knowing to ask him for money. Now when I found out about this MONTHS later, I was soooo VEXED that she would even play herself and do some mess like that, but I digress. Anyway, my mom gave her money obviously that when the trial was over that she would give her the money back. My aunt asked my mother to take equity out of her HOUSE!!!! to help her pay his bail. Now I assure you when I heard this mess I was livid. Apparently, unbeknownst to us, my mom borrowed this money against the equity in her life insurance to loan the money to my aunt with the hopes she would pay it back after the trail so she could send it back to the insurance company. Ok bet
The trial has been over for months now. He was found innocent. My mother still hasn't gotten the money back. So before she went vacation she asked my aunt about it, and my aunt told her that she was going to see what she could find out, because her and the other lady put the money together to pay the bail. Now apparently this woman sold her house and moved to Atlanta after this whole ordeal. My mom comes back from vacation and calls my aunt, she isn' answering any of her calls or returning her messages. My mom gets a letter from her insurance company saying that her policy has lapsed because she hasnt given that money back....so after haggling with them she got the issue fixed. My mom finally is able to track my aunt down and when my mom asks her about the money...this HEIFER has the NERVE to yell at my mom telling her she is stressing her out and she has bills to pay and blah blah blah. It's been summised by my other aunt in FL (the only one who is worth a damn) that she got the money back from the lady and she spent it. So my mother got upset and she is telling me this story and I'm seriously like you shouldn't be telling me this, because I will go to her house and drape her up.
My thing is this....there are 5 kids...my uncle disappeared...he is last rumoured to be in FL but who knows. She has 3 sisters, one in FL and 2 in NYC. My grandmother is sick, she is losing her eyesight and she lives with us. My mom takes care of her, my dad cooks all her meals, my mom cleans her room, buys her all the things she needs (food, clothes, toiletries, medication which she is on an unnatural amount of), does all her laundry, all of that. My aunts....DO NOT come to help, they offer no money, they offer no time, they don't come spend time with her and NEITHER one of them have a job like that. The ONLY time they come see their OWN mother is if they want to borrow money from her from her social security check OR when they want to borrow money from my mom. One of my cousin lives with us...he is 17, should be a senior in H.S but AINT cuz when he moved into our house after 2 FULL years of school he only had 7 credits! yes only 7! and thats another story all to it self. His mother doesn't work, doesnt want to take him back in, doesnt give any money to feed him and I ASSURE you he eats like a damn horse, doesnt check on his schooling to see how he is doing and has the NERVE to FILE for him on her taxes when she DONT even take care of him.
I feel like they are taking advantage in the TRUE sense of the word, they are stressing my mom out with their BULL and my mom suffers from high blood pressure and I swear to goodness if anything happens to her....
Yeah I'm done.
10 Comments:
seems like they stressing you out too. well we had a saying in my family 'you can choose your friends but not your family" dont know if thats a good thing or a bad thing.
I think family should treat each other better than the averge person out there but i dont think they should take adavntage of you. and if they do try to take advantage of you I dont blindly believe that you let it slide either. I hold family to a higher not a lower standard.
Anyway I really hope your mom gets her money back cause thats just f'ed up
I have yet to figure out what family is truly good for. I mean granted...I have close family ties to my mother and her siblings plus offspring but they still stress the mess out of me at times. Stay up girl, don't let em stress you. I am a strong believer that God blesses those who are blessings to others.
drape her up yes. Some people never learn manners. Even if it's family, howdy and tenk you no bruk no square.
and MY family wonders why I don't come around alot....
GOODNESS!
You aint said nothing we don't feel and see ourself in our own family ...... Family was created for an example.... but just like with any example their is a good and a bad.... bad family ... the heroin addicts that die from bad dose... the fuck ups who leave their kids.... the mis money managers.... the slackers.....the unconcerned.. they are good examples.....on how not to act.... or bad examples on how to act.... but if someone born into good family ( i want to meet these people i really do ) then you in heaven .... just keep acting like your fam....
Who was it that said "the one's that hug you are the one's best positioned to put a knife in your back"?... nobody?... ok I will take credit for it... I said it.
Yes... hahah, someone elses family is as screwed up as mine. But give them a chance, they will come around. Dont let them stress you.
I hate to say this but your aunt is extra special. I wish my Mom would borrow money against her home or life insurance to bail one of my cousins out of jail. She would hear it from me!!
Bless her heart, your mom went over and above what a lot of family members would do for each other....and she is going to be blessed by that, whether your auntie gives her the money back or not.
Funny thing is....this type of shit happens in the black community all the time. My family is the same way which is why I don't talk to any of them. I have a brother that I haven't talked to in over 10 years. And we live in the same city. My two cents????
Fuck 'Em. Life is too short to trip on their BS. Blood does NOT make your family. It just means that you happen to share DNA with them.
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